Dear President Jonathan: We, the more than 200 victims of Boko
Haram’s latest savage bomb attacks, feel we must write to you from
beyond the grave. Our simple message is summed up in the phrase: Enough
is enough.
As you know, we were dispatched to our sudden death by the gruesome
bombs of depraved people who think they have God’s mandate to kill and
maim others. We did not commit any crime deserving of any punishment,
much less the horrific deaths meted out to us. We were simply going
about the business of our varied daily lives. We just happened to be
about when craven men who take pride in playing god set about their
heinous business of sowing bombs the way more honorable people sow yams.
The bombs exploded in a fraction of a breath, left us no praying
chance, no time even to think swift, endearing last thoughts about loved
ones. Forget about saying hurried good byes. Incendiary, deafening
blasts, and it ended. In a flash, more than two hundred of us, men and
women, adults and children, became gored, scalded, bloodied bodies,
twitching as we turned into corpses. The bombs severed limbs, tore open
skulls, disgorged brains and viscera.
The rabid, misbegotten zealots of a twisted version of Islam planted
the explosives that killed us. But the space and idea called Nigeria is
complicit in our dastardly fate.
The pieces of our decapitated bodies had not been harvested yet when
the Nigerian state commenced its mindless business of dishonoring the
dead. The security agencies that could not anticipate and forestall the
attack that wasted our lives began its usual dumb game of statistical
fibbing. They said “only” twenty-something of us had died. And then, as
the evidence mounted about the scale of the tragedy, they revised their
figures upwards. Only seventy plus people had perished, they asserted.
Why does the Nigerian state resort to lies after every act of
carnage? Isn’t it bad enough that the country’s security agents are
unable to protect innocents from the murderous designs of evil merchants
of death? What end is served by this macabre falsehood? Is there a
prize of nobility handed out to countries that consistently under-report
the number of people who perish in acts of violence? Even if
twenty-five of us died, instead of two hundred, does that earn Nigeria
some great glory? Does that make Nigeria a rosier destination for
tourists? Are foreign investors perpetually on the lookout, waiting to
rush their cash into any country that, a, routinely falsifies the number
of casualties in terrorist attacks and, b, would place the word “only”
before twenty-five or seventy-five corpses?
This morbid lying with figures is yet another way that Nigeria
violates most of its populace. Most of those unfortunate enough to be
called Nigerians are systematically degraded in life and diminished in
death. Alive or dead, Nigerians don’t count!
About this time last year, two young men, blood brothers, set off
pressure cooker bombs near the finish line of the Boston marathon. Three
persons died, with scores more injured. US officials did not spend one
moment trying to mislead the world about the number of victims. Instead,
from President Barack Obama through Governor Deval Patrick of
Massachusetts to the mayor of Boston, one message and one message
emerged: the perpetrators would be unmasked, and the people of Boston
would grow stronger from the horror.
The full power and intelligence of American law enforcement got
cracking. Investigations led to leads led to identification of the
perpetrators led to a massive manhunt that led to the death of one
suspect, the capture of the other.
Through it all, the American people, led by Mr. Obama, remained
focused, resilient, determined to learn the hard lessons and to be more
vigilant in order to avert, or at least reduce, future attacks.
What President Obama did, Mr. Jonathan, is a profile in what’s called
true leadership. Let’s contrast his admirable example with yours.
Our torn limbs were still being gathered, it seemed, when you,
President Jonathan, took off to Kano to keep a campaign date. It was
deplorable enough that you felt the urge to proceed with partisan
politicking hours after a dreadful series of explosions killed so many,
physically scarred many more, and left uncountable numbers bereaved,
shaken with grief. But the kind of political rally you choose to have
spoke volumes about your profound confusion about the meaning and
quality of leadership. You had on stage with you musicians who played
heady music, as if the slaughter of Nigerians at Nyanya motor park was a
crowning achievement of your presidency. You even swayed to the music,
titillated your fellow party men and women with a few dance steps. Then
you unleashed a torrent of lowbrow, partisan vituperations against your
political opponents.
Here’s what you didn’t do, what you failed to do. You didn’t project a
solemn expression that would have shown you were aware of what time it
was in Nigeria—aware that it was Death time, Horror time, Mourning time.
If you had to do an event in Kano, you might have used the occasion to
spell out a major policy initiative for addressing the plague of Boko
Haram. You did not tell confused, angry and terrorized Nigerians what
you plan to do to checkmate those who deal death to others in the name
of fighting western values.
No, you danced. You danced—we might as well say—on the corpses of
those who died; on the wounds of those still bleeding from their
injuries; on the agony of the bereaved. For you, sir, and for other
Nigerian officials, leadership seems to be one giddy carnival that goes
on interminably, must go on regardless of the number of corpses piling
up on the streets, no matter the depth of disquiet on the faces of
“ordinary” Nigerians for whom death at the hands of Boko Haram is a real
and present danger.
You and your aides have often accused your political opponents of
sponsoring sorties of Boko Haram attacks. If this is true, then it’s
your duty to do something about it. Nigerians are sick of this ploy,
tired of the fruitless pointing at faceless, nameless nemeses. Unmask
the sponsors, now. Order their arrest and prosecution, now. It doesn’t
matter how politically or financially big they are. Go ahead: name,
arrest and prosecute them.
If you’re scared of these champions of death, if the arsenal of your
presidential powers can’t match their homicidal will, then it’s time you
stepped down from the office you hold. If Nigeria’s crime entrepreneurs
are so big that the president and the institutions of the state must
cower in fear of them, then Nigeria has zero reason to continue
existing.
Mr. Jonathan, stop this carnival train that parades streets piled with corpses! Leadership is not a party.
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(okeyndibe@gmail.com)
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
Tuesday, February 25, 2014
"I HAVE SEX EVERYDAY"- MAHEEDA
Nigeria’s Gospel singer, mother and x-rated model, Maheeda who has
been married to her husband for two years says, she is addicted to sex!
Read her interview today below:
Do you feel by taking off your clothes at every chance you get, that you are sending a good message to your daughter?
I don’t know, because the way people take things are very
different. My daughter is now 13, and I once sat my daughter down and
asked her what she thought about my video, and she just said ‘Why did
you take your clothes off’, and I said I wanted to get attention, and
she was like, ‘Okay’. You know the orientation in Europe is completely
different from around here.
You seem to derive a lot of pleasure from flaunting your private parts. Why?
Honestly, some years back, I wanted to start wearing bum shorts on
the TV, but I was scared of what people would say. But all of a sudden,
bum shorts were everywhere. I wanted to wear panties also, but was also
scared of what people will say, and all of a sudden everyone is wearing
it. And when I wanted to get naked in a music video, people were like I
shouldn’t do it. But I had to do it, because I didn’t want anyone to do
it before me. You know it is show business, and there are competitors.
How has being semi-nude majority of the time made an impact on your career?
I feel like this is one of the best peaks of my career. I was telling my team that maybe I should just keep taking off my clothes, but they are like, I have to sing. They are trying to get me to have a balance even though getting naked is what brought me all the attention, but they really want me to focus on the music.
On being in your comfort zone now
Yes! I would say that, because I’m a crazy person, I love sex, I love attention, I love boys, I love music, I love attention, I love modelling. Everything that I love is what I’m doing.
I feel like this is one of the best peaks of my career. I was telling my team that maybe I should just keep taking off my clothes, but they are like, I have to sing. They are trying to get me to have a balance even though getting naked is what brought me all the attention, but they really want me to focus on the music.
On being in your comfort zone now
Yes! I would say that, because I’m a crazy person, I love sex, I love attention, I love boys, I love music, I love attention, I love modelling. Everything that I love is what I’m doing.
You love sex? How much do you love it?
A lot… I’m addicted to sex, and I have to have sex everyday.
How many times do you have sex in a day?
At least once everyday, and if there’s no guy around me, I’ll help
myself by masturbating. I have a lot of sextoys; in fact, I’m a regular
customer. It’s like food to me, and you have to eat. It is very healthy
and it gives you the right curves and my body is used to it.
You mean your body needs sex to function normally?
Yes! Sometimes I just squirt, like when am having sex, and because I am used to it and my body needs it.
You mean your body needs sex to function normally?
Yes! Sometimes I just squirt, like when am having sex, and because I am used to it and my body needs it.
On Afrocandy offer to appear in her porn movies. Is there any chance you’ll ever do porn?
No way! This is working for me, so why do I have to do that? She’s doing all that and she’s getting her money and I’m also getting the same money doing what I’m doing, so why should I do porn. I enjoy sex but I’m not sure I want to do it in front of the whole Nigeria.
No way! This is working for me, so why do I have to do that? She’s doing all that and she’s getting her money and I’m also getting the same money doing what I’m doing, so why should I do porn. I enjoy sex but I’m not sure I want to do it in front of the whole Nigeria.
Friday, January 31, 2014
Beyonce To Be Studied In The University
American Singer, Beyonce a.k.a Queen Bee has joined the likes of Oprah Winfrey and husband Jay Z who are been studied as a course in the University. A George town University presently offers a sociology course named Jay Z, the new course created to study Beyonce is called Politicizing Beyonce at Rutgers University in New Jersey.
The University’s Department of Women’s and Gender Studies will be
exploring the social & cultural significance of the songstress’s
music and image.
The course will allow fans to explore Beyonce’s alter ego Sasha Fierce, and debate the extent of control she has over her own image. They will also debate whether her red hot persona is an outlet of female s*xual empowerment or merely complying with western gender stereotypes. “This isn’t a course about Beyonce’s political engagement or how many times she performed during President Obama’s inauguration weekend. She certainly pushes boundaries. While other artists are simply releasing music, she’s creating a grand narrative around her life, her career, and her persona.’ Kevin Allred, the person in charge of the course at Rutgers University said
The course will allow fans to explore Beyonce’s alter ego Sasha Fierce, and debate the extent of control she has over her own image. They will also debate whether her red hot persona is an outlet of female s*xual empowerment or merely complying with western gender stereotypes. “This isn’t a course about Beyonce’s political engagement or how many times she performed during President Obama’s inauguration weekend. She certainly pushes boundaries. While other artists are simply releasing music, she’s creating a grand narrative around her life, her career, and her persona.’ Kevin Allred, the person in charge of the course at Rutgers University said
TONTO DIKE CALLS TERRY G MAD MAN DURING LATE-NIGHT CHAT
Meet Amiya The Boy Who Transformed In To A Lady
Most people know her story but never saw much of her pictures as a man. 9 hours ago, Amiya shared a picture of herself as a boy on her instagram page. You will hardly believe she was a boy from the way she looks now.
‘Jay Z a poor excuse for a husband’
What do you call a man who stands there smiling and singing as his
scantily clad wife straddles a chair and shakes her rear end for other
men’s titillation?
I’m certain if I look through enough Jay Z song titles, I’ll come up
with the right name for his role in Beyoncé’s performance at the Grammy
Awards Sunday night. Rhymes with Goodyear. . . ? Well, how about I just
call him a poor excuse for a husband.
For years, these award ceremonies have pushed the envelope; Beyoncé’s booty-shaking was certainly no worse than Miley Cyrus’s twerking or any number of other performances by Madonna, for instance. But there’s something particularly icky about doing it while your husband looks on approvingly.
“Honestly, I didn’t want to watch Jay Z and Beyoncé’s foreplay,” says Charlotte Hays, author of “When Did White Trash Become the New Normal?” Indeed, the happy couple seems to have completely blurred the line between what goes on in their bedroom and what happens on national TV. So much for the woman that Michelle Obama has called “a role model who kids everywhere can look up to.”
Hays says, “It wasn’t surprising to see Jay Z, looking pleased at his
wife’s hyper-sexualized exhibition on stage.” After all, “he’s made a
living singing lyrics that call women ‘bitches’ and ‘hos,’ so we
shouldn’t be surprised that he objectified his own wife on stage.”
It is a little bit surprising, though, coming so soon after Beyoncé contributed to the recent feminist manifesto, the Shriver Report. When she complains that “gender equality is a myth,” one wonders to what extent her consent to sell sexuality has contributed to the problem.
The sophisticates will say that what we saw Sunday were just the long-established stage personas of Beyoncé and Jay Z; why should their marriage change that?
Well, for one thing, the happy couple have invited audiences to admire their adorable family, with dad even joking about his daughter’s sippy cups when he accepted an award on Sunday. So they’re suggesting to audiences that this kind of public sexual behavior is compatible with a loving modern marriage.
Which brings us to that odd mass wedding, sort of a Hollywood version of those creepy Moonie affairs, as Queen Latifah officiated at the joining in matrimony of 33 couples as part of the awards ceremony.
Asked about it, she said, “The weight of it comes down, because it wouldn’t matter if you’re same-sex couples or heterosexual couples or interracial couples, it doesn’t matter to me, this is someone’s life committed to one another, and you want to make sure you do it right.” Does that kind of commitment entail watching approvingly as your partner shows off her bootyliciousness?
Feminists will argue that Beyoncé had a career before she got married; why should marriage change how she performs? It’s a good question. How does being married change a relationship? Or, in Beyoncé’s terms, if he likes it, why should he put a ring on it?
It’s a question that François Hollande asked and answered easily: There’s not much reason for men to put a ring on it at all, as far as the French president is concerned.
Hollande just decided to trade in one girlfriend for a younger version. His now-ex was mad enough, according to some reports to destroy $3 million worth of property in the Élysée Palace, but you might reasonably ask what she expected. A ring is no guarantee (as the first wife of Hollande’s predecessor, Nicolas Sarkozy, learned), but it’s at least a suggestion that there is a permanent future for a relationship.
Still, this may simply be the state of relations between the sexes. Mark Regnerus, a sociologist at the University of Texas at Austin, says that women today have struck a kind of “grand bargain.”
He says, “Women get contraception and the ability to limit and space their children, and the chance to fashion careers — things that sound good and are often experienced as such — and in return men get to decide just how invested in a relationship they actually have to be.”
The problem, he notes, is that “men prefer cheaper sex” — that is, they prefer not to be more invested than they have to be.
Of course, those who do make the investment typically prefer not to share the proceeds with a prime-time TV audience.
For years, these award ceremonies have pushed the envelope; Beyoncé’s booty-shaking was certainly no worse than Miley Cyrus’s twerking or any number of other performances by Madonna, for instance. But there’s something particularly icky about doing it while your husband looks on approvingly.
“Honestly, I didn’t want to watch Jay Z and Beyoncé’s foreplay,” says Charlotte Hays, author of “When Did White Trash Become the New Normal?” Indeed, the happy couple seems to have completely blurred the line between what goes on in their bedroom and what happens on national TV. So much for the woman that Michelle Obama has called “a role model who kids everywhere can look up to.”
It is a little bit surprising, though, coming so soon after Beyoncé contributed to the recent feminist manifesto, the Shriver Report. When she complains that “gender equality is a myth,” one wonders to what extent her consent to sell sexuality has contributed to the problem.
The sophisticates will say that what we saw Sunday were just the long-established stage personas of Beyoncé and Jay Z; why should their marriage change that?
Well, for one thing, the happy couple have invited audiences to admire their adorable family, with dad even joking about his daughter’s sippy cups when he accepted an award on Sunday. So they’re suggesting to audiences that this kind of public sexual behavior is compatible with a loving modern marriage.
Which brings us to that odd mass wedding, sort of a Hollywood version of those creepy Moonie affairs, as Queen Latifah officiated at the joining in matrimony of 33 couples as part of the awards ceremony.
Asked about it, she said, “The weight of it comes down, because it wouldn’t matter if you’re same-sex couples or heterosexual couples or interracial couples, it doesn’t matter to me, this is someone’s life committed to one another, and you want to make sure you do it right.” Does that kind of commitment entail watching approvingly as your partner shows off her bootyliciousness?
Feminists will argue that Beyoncé had a career before she got married; why should marriage change how she performs? It’s a good question. How does being married change a relationship? Or, in Beyoncé’s terms, if he likes it, why should he put a ring on it?
It’s a question that François Hollande asked and answered easily: There’s not much reason for men to put a ring on it at all, as far as the French president is concerned.
Hollande just decided to trade in one girlfriend for a younger version. His now-ex was mad enough, according to some reports to destroy $3 million worth of property in the Élysée Palace, but you might reasonably ask what she expected. A ring is no guarantee (as the first wife of Hollande’s predecessor, Nicolas Sarkozy, learned), but it’s at least a suggestion that there is a permanent future for a relationship.
Still, this may simply be the state of relations between the sexes. Mark Regnerus, a sociologist at the University of Texas at Austin, says that women today have struck a kind of “grand bargain.”
He says, “Women get contraception and the ability to limit and space their children, and the chance to fashion careers — things that sound good and are often experienced as such — and in return men get to decide just how invested in a relationship they actually have to be.”
The problem, he notes, is that “men prefer cheaper sex” — that is, they prefer not to be more invested than they have to be.
Of course, those who do make the investment typically prefer not to share the proceeds with a prime-time TV audience.
SHAKIRA AND BEYONCE RELEASES VIDEO FOR THEIR SINGLE
Shakira and Rihanna have unveiled
the video for their single 'Can’t Remember to Forget You,' and when two
of the world's sexiest women collaborate, what do you expect? Skimpy
outfits, naked embrace, dramatic hair flips and a near-kiss.
SO WHO'S SEXIER? ............ Enjoy
9ice and K1 performance @ the Premiere of OMO MUSHIN by Murphy Afolabi
When you watch these video, you will realize that Fuji legend Wasiu
Ayinde Marshal aka K1 De Ultimate and star singer Pasuma Alabi are not
in good good relationship. K1 in these videos refused to recognize
Pasuma on stage despite the fact that Pasuma was dancing on K1's stage.
Ayinde Marshal aka K1 De Ultimate and star singer Pasuma Alabi are not
in good good relationship. K1 in these videos refused to recognize
Pasuma on stage despite the fact that Pasuma was dancing on K1's stage.
TONI PAYNE FINALLY BREAKS SILENCE ON BREAK UP WITH 9ICE
I have learned over the years that you pick your battles. I have also
learned that it is wise to ignore certain things, but when that certain
thing is something that could impact another being negatively, then I
would be doing a disservice by ignoring. I woke up this morning to a
tweet by a twitter follower of mine (blazingpearl). She had retweeted a
friend who retweeted a quote that was supposedly said by me.
Apparently some blogs are touting the idea that I am ok with cheating. “Toni Payne Said, do not leave a cheating man” Toni payne said its ok to cheat”. I have NEVER in any way shape or form, condoned cheating. It is hurtful, wrong, can be dangerous and I do not advise anybody male or female to cheat on their mate. I know different people used different headlines to address my tweets. I am only referring to those blogs whose headlines on twitter said I was ok with cheating. To those who quoted me without saying I was ok with cheating. Thanks for staying within the professional lines. My tweets were about self love. We cant deny that not everyone leaves a cheating spouse. The point I was trying to make was, if you decide to stay, please work on loving yourself instead of being miserable because your man is creeping. That is IF you decide to stay. I am not here to judge anyone who wants to stay with a cheating spouse, we all know what we can endure in life and we all know what makes us ok as individuals.
I felt like tweeting advise that may or may not help someone that may
be going through some difficult times. You never know who is reading
and I feel some words I have stumbled on have helped me too so why not. I
really don’t want to stop tweeting advice because of some mischievous
few, but misconstruing my words on such a sensitive topic is
irresponsible. Even if you no send me, send your readers naa. All na
public service abeg abeg. I enjoy my simple life and I don’t need the
extras. How many times have they posted that “Toni Payne is achieving
this” upon all the things I have done this year alone. My podcast has
been doing very well in Naija and America, they wont write about that…
na to put bad bad tin. God pass you jor.. lol…I digress!
I talk about my experience because that is what I have to share. I can not speak about someone else’s opinion or experience. Only mine!. Because I chose not to harbor hate in my heart does not mean I have not moved on. On the contrary, it means I have moved on perfectly fine. I do not need to come on the public spare shouting up and down that I am in a relationship or posting another mans picture everywhere before people realize that I have let the past go. Letting the past go does not mean you cant speak about it. It doesn’t mean you can’t use it to advise others. Speaking about your experience in life does not mean you are dwelling on it. It doesn’t mean you are insecure, foolish, or you dont know what you are doing. It simply means, you are wiser, and wisdom is a lot of times earned via learning from experience.
I don dey talk long but to the initial point i wish to address, to those who still believe I cheated on my ex. I am sorry to disappoint you, I NEVER cheated on my ex hubby. Its not who I am, it will never be who I am. Tell yourself 1 million times, Toni Payne cheated, it will never make it true. Nobody caught me in any lie, or in any bad situation, nobody slept with anyone he was close to. Yall need to put a full stop to that bullshit. Its old!. Sometimes, men want their freedom, and the fact is you cant force them to stay. Same goes for women. Everyone wont have a perfect relationship, not everyone will stay married forever, we can only aspire to. Even those that have been married 10 years and are busy judging others, do you know your tomorrow? naaaa you sure don’t so curb it abeg. We can only pray, work, and hope for a good union.
Anyways To address this my ex said this or that issue. Let me just say He has NEVER for once opened his mouth to accuse me of cheating. He has NEVER for once opened his mouth to accuse me of sleeping with anyone he knows. If awon alaiye baje wanna use our situation then to sell their crap, how is that my fault? The same media controlling the remote to say I think cheating is ok, are the same who controlled the remote back then to say his song was about me. Nobody ever called him to verify or ask before publishing. Ill admit that we both did not handle the situation well back then, It was the first time we would experience such. The tension was plenty and emotions were everywhere. We should have sorted it privately. which we did try to do but one rubbish headline and emotions go buckwild again.
I don’t wanna sound like I am defending him, cos he is responsible for himself, but in all fairness to him, and because I have a conscience that serves me well, not for once did he tweet, fb, email, interview anything of the sort. Our issues had absolutely nothing to do with what the media were speculating. People took a song he did and turned it upside down. My crew MIXED AND MASTERED the song. If it was about me, why would I allow him release it. God gave all of us sense naa.. Some just chose not to use theirs and chose to believe anything they read even when the facts are there to sort through. The only thing I have blamed him for, was not coming out on time to refute the claims and allowing it to escalate to that level, he has since apologized SEVERALLY, we have discussed it privately as we should have from the jump.
I have accepted and moved on. I have also apologized for losing my cool on twitter, he has since accepted and moved on. Really, what more is there. I am not sure what people want from me. Should I hate him forever? Should I tie him to a post and flog him mercilessly? Should I be a wicked person and deprive him of his son? If I remain bitter and upset, please what value will it add to my life? Wo, my life is much more simpler than all this. Those who know me well, know this.
Those that dont understand me are the ones who will be forever outside looking in, speculating crap. I am truly tired of this topic but since it seems to keep popping up, i felt it is best to finally address it properly. If anyone decides to hang on to the lie after this, that is their own cup of tea. I have a talk show to record, poetry to write and a child to raise. I don talk my own. FIN!.. If you catch any typos or errors.. take it like that. I wrote it as is…straight from the heart.. I know most who carried the headline have no conscience and wont bother appending but if anyone choses to take my post and misconstrue that one too, I leave you to God.. no be chere kambia..Se Fini
Apparently some blogs are touting the idea that I am ok with cheating. “Toni Payne Said, do not leave a cheating man” Toni payne said its ok to cheat”. I have NEVER in any way shape or form, condoned cheating. It is hurtful, wrong, can be dangerous and I do not advise anybody male or female to cheat on their mate. I know different people used different headlines to address my tweets. I am only referring to those blogs whose headlines on twitter said I was ok with cheating. To those who quoted me without saying I was ok with cheating. Thanks for staying within the professional lines. My tweets were about self love. We cant deny that not everyone leaves a cheating spouse. The point I was trying to make was, if you decide to stay, please work on loving yourself instead of being miserable because your man is creeping. That is IF you decide to stay. I am not here to judge anyone who wants to stay with a cheating spouse, we all know what we can endure in life and we all know what makes us ok as individuals.
I talk about my experience because that is what I have to share. I can not speak about someone else’s opinion or experience. Only mine!. Because I chose not to harbor hate in my heart does not mean I have not moved on. On the contrary, it means I have moved on perfectly fine. I do not need to come on the public spare shouting up and down that I am in a relationship or posting another mans picture everywhere before people realize that I have let the past go. Letting the past go does not mean you cant speak about it. It doesn’t mean you can’t use it to advise others. Speaking about your experience in life does not mean you are dwelling on it. It doesn’t mean you are insecure, foolish, or you dont know what you are doing. It simply means, you are wiser, and wisdom is a lot of times earned via learning from experience.
I don dey talk long but to the initial point i wish to address, to those who still believe I cheated on my ex. I am sorry to disappoint you, I NEVER cheated on my ex hubby. Its not who I am, it will never be who I am. Tell yourself 1 million times, Toni Payne cheated, it will never make it true. Nobody caught me in any lie, or in any bad situation, nobody slept with anyone he was close to. Yall need to put a full stop to that bullshit. Its old!. Sometimes, men want their freedom, and the fact is you cant force them to stay. Same goes for women. Everyone wont have a perfect relationship, not everyone will stay married forever, we can only aspire to. Even those that have been married 10 years and are busy judging others, do you know your tomorrow? naaaa you sure don’t so curb it abeg. We can only pray, work, and hope for a good union.
Anyways To address this my ex said this or that issue. Let me just say He has NEVER for once opened his mouth to accuse me of cheating. He has NEVER for once opened his mouth to accuse me of sleeping with anyone he knows. If awon alaiye baje wanna use our situation then to sell their crap, how is that my fault? The same media controlling the remote to say I think cheating is ok, are the same who controlled the remote back then to say his song was about me. Nobody ever called him to verify or ask before publishing. Ill admit that we both did not handle the situation well back then, It was the first time we would experience such. The tension was plenty and emotions were everywhere. We should have sorted it privately. which we did try to do but one rubbish headline and emotions go buckwild again.
I don’t wanna sound like I am defending him, cos he is responsible for himself, but in all fairness to him, and because I have a conscience that serves me well, not for once did he tweet, fb, email, interview anything of the sort. Our issues had absolutely nothing to do with what the media were speculating. People took a song he did and turned it upside down. My crew MIXED AND MASTERED the song. If it was about me, why would I allow him release it. God gave all of us sense naa.. Some just chose not to use theirs and chose to believe anything they read even when the facts are there to sort through. The only thing I have blamed him for, was not coming out on time to refute the claims and allowing it to escalate to that level, he has since apologized SEVERALLY, we have discussed it privately as we should have from the jump.
I have accepted and moved on. I have also apologized for losing my cool on twitter, he has since accepted and moved on. Really, what more is there. I am not sure what people want from me. Should I hate him forever? Should I tie him to a post and flog him mercilessly? Should I be a wicked person and deprive him of his son? If I remain bitter and upset, please what value will it add to my life? Wo, my life is much more simpler than all this. Those who know me well, know this.
Those that dont understand me are the ones who will be forever outside looking in, speculating crap. I am truly tired of this topic but since it seems to keep popping up, i felt it is best to finally address it properly. If anyone decides to hang on to the lie after this, that is their own cup of tea. I have a talk show to record, poetry to write and a child to raise. I don talk my own. FIN!.. If you catch any typos or errors.. take it like that. I wrote it as is…straight from the heart.. I know most who carried the headline have no conscience and wont bother appending but if anyone choses to take my post and misconstrue that one too, I leave you to God.. no be chere kambia..Se Fini
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